Just a reminder, if you didn't read the first post...
I've joined forces with some of my best wifey-friends to write these posts.
Our thoughts, ideas and experiences are mixed in together -
as one - so you will have no idea who is credited with what :)
Here's what you should know before we dive in:
1. We believe that God created sex as an act of love, intimacy and connection
(and baby making) between a husband and a wife within the union of marriage.
2. If you have had sex outside of marriage, we believe in a God who loves redeeming and restoring.
3. We realize that our experiences aren't everyone's.
We also realize that we're all still pretty much in our newlywed stages so we aren't experts.
But it's our heart to share with you.
I've joined forces with some of my best wifey-friends to write these posts.
Our thoughts, ideas and experiences are mixed in together -
as one - so you will have no idea who is credited with what :)
Here's what you should know before we dive in:
1. We believe that God created sex as an act of love, intimacy and connection
(and baby making) between a husband and a wife within the union of marriage.
2. If you have had sex outside of marriage, we believe in a God who loves redeeming and restoring.
3. We realize that our experiences aren't everyone's.
We also realize that we're all still pretty much in our newlywed stages so we aren't experts.
But it's our heart to share with you.
This is going to be a more honest post.
A more blunt post. And probably the most relevant and important yet.
To men, sex is a primary way to show love and be satisfied
within the marriage relationship. In addition, they physically need sex in a
much different way than women do. So, sometimes, you should do it just ‘cause
you love him. Sometimes, especially for women, sex is just sex – it isn’t this romantic display of
fireworks – but every time it is an important way to show love to your husband.
When I'm not "in the mood" or don't "feel" like having sex, I try to get out of that mindset and enjoy serving my husband. Let's face it, guys need sex more than we do. And there has never been one time where I have regretted it afterwards. It always ends up being fun. It just takes a little effort sometimes to put myself "in the mood." Then, it's totally worth it.
Some weeks are better than others. Some weeks, I want to have sex more. Some weeks it sounds exhausting. I think that's ok. Just as long as you make it a priority in your relationship through the on-weeks and the off-weeks, then those “sex is amazing” times are sure to come. Sometimes you just have to make the time, you have to schedule it, you have to put it on your to do list. Just do it. Seriously.
If you’re having trouble getting motivated for sex, remember that it is a huge way to show love to your husband. Make it about him. Become less selfish about it, and you'll enjoy it more! Don't think "What's in it for me?", instead think how can I give him amazing pleasure?
Build him up. Boost his ego! Be his biggest cheerleader. Let him know how much you adore him. Whenever you think he looks good, tell him. And while it's wonderful to tell him he's handsome, tell him when he’s hot and sexy. Tell him there's no other guy in the world you'd rather be with. He'd love to hear it! Go crazy and talk dirty if you want to! Because guess what...in marriage, it's not dirty! It's awesome!
(Oh, by the way, your time of the month doesn't mean you have to take a hiatus from all sexual activity. He does not want it any less that week! Please him in other ways, experiment!)
Ladies, listen...there are temptations in this world vying for your husbands attention all of the time. He doesn't have to look for them - they're there. But how blessed and satisfied is the husband who has a wife who thinks he's a rockstar and who shares herself with him and satisfies him sexually and otherwise! Sometimes I flash my husband in the morning or give him naked kisses just so he goes to work remembering how awesome his wife is. That's important - you have to make it a priority to make your man the happiest man in the world. Men need to feel confident and adored somewhere - let it be with you, not somewhere else.
When I'm not "in the mood" or don't "feel" like having sex, I try to get out of that mindset and enjoy serving my husband. Let's face it, guys need sex more than we do. And there has never been one time where I have regretted it afterwards. It always ends up being fun. It just takes a little effort sometimes to put myself "in the mood." Then, it's totally worth it.
Some weeks are better than others. Some weeks, I want to have sex more. Some weeks it sounds exhausting. I think that's ok. Just as long as you make it a priority in your relationship through the on-weeks and the off-weeks, then those “sex is amazing” times are sure to come. Sometimes you just have to make the time, you have to schedule it, you have to put it on your to do list. Just do it. Seriously.
If you’re having trouble getting motivated for sex, remember that it is a huge way to show love to your husband. Make it about him. Become less selfish about it, and you'll enjoy it more! Don't think "What's in it for me?", instead think how can I give him amazing pleasure?
Build him up. Boost his ego! Be his biggest cheerleader. Let him know how much you adore him. Whenever you think he looks good, tell him. And while it's wonderful to tell him he's handsome, tell him when he’s hot and sexy. Tell him there's no other guy in the world you'd rather be with. He'd love to hear it! Go crazy and talk dirty if you want to! Because guess what...in marriage, it's not dirty! It's awesome!
(Oh, by the way, your time of the month doesn't mean you have to take a hiatus from all sexual activity. He does not want it any less that week! Please him in other ways, experiment!)
Ladies, listen...there are temptations in this world vying for your husbands attention all of the time. He doesn't have to look for them - they're there. But how blessed and satisfied is the husband who has a wife who thinks he's a rockstar and who shares herself with him and satisfies him sexually and otherwise! Sometimes I flash my husband in the morning or give him naked kisses just so he goes to work remembering how awesome his wife is. That's important - you have to make it a priority to make your man the happiest man in the world. Men need to feel confident and adored somewhere - let it be with you, not somewhere else.
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