So, here we go. I've joined forces with some of my very best friends and some very sexy wives who are crazy about their husbands to write these posts. Our thoughts, ideas and experiences are mixed in together - as one - so you will have no idea who is credited with what :) My husband wants to make sure you know these are not all my experiences and thoughts, although I agree with and support all that is said.
Here's what you should know before we dive in:
1. We believe that God created sex as an act of love, intimacy and connection (and baby making) between a husband and a wife within the union of marriage.
2. If you have had sex outside of marriage, we believe in a God who loves redeeming and restoring.
3. We realize that our experiences aren't everyone's. We also realize that we're all still pretty much in our newlywed stages so we aren't experts. But it's our heart to share with you.
Here's what you should know before we dive in:
1. We believe that God created sex as an act of love, intimacy and connection (and baby making) between a husband and a wife within the union of marriage.
2. If you have had sex outside of marriage, we believe in a God who loves redeeming and restoring.
3. We realize that our experiences aren't everyone's. We also realize that we're all still pretty much in our newlywed stages so we aren't experts. But it's our heart to share with you.
Here we go...
First of all, for those of you who are still single,
enjoy this season of your life. Daydream and plan for the future, but don't make it your focus. You will get there one day, but now is the only season of your life that you will be single. Enjoy it. Make memories. Live in the present.
Don’t rush into a physical relationship and take strides to keep your mind pure. It’s human nature to be curious about sexuality – but keeping your mind and body pure is what God wants for us, and it will make your future marriage so much better. It’s hard in today’s society, so make sure that you form boundaries and have people around you who know and respect those boundaries and can hold you accountable.
By the way, real sex is not like the cutaway sex scenes in the movies. It’s not always hot and passionate. It’s not nice and clean. It’s not always bendy and creative. But it’s much deeper, more intimate and more connecting than TV could ever convey.
For those getting married soon,
get good marriage counseling. You may have a great relationship but marriage counseling can help you talk through things which will make things easier later. Talk about money, roles for each of you, in-laws, holidays, sex, etc. Having this can help avoid future conflict, because you know what to expect. And talk with couples in different stages of marriage who have been through different things to hear their experiences and encouragement.
For you wives out there,
have faith that you aren't the only one wondering about something, dealing with that thing or feeling that way. Curious about why your husband likes that or doesn't? Curious about why it just isn't working out for you? No woman is the perfect wife. We all have different strengths and different weaknesses - that's why God wants us to live in community with one another. I hope this series will help you feel encouraged and refreshed as a woman and as a wife.
The most important thing going into this series, if you are a follower of Jesus, is that being closer to Jesus prepares you for your (future) spouse and brings you closer to your spouse. I know it doesn't necessarily seem like it would be true, but it is. When I am reading the words of Jesus and falling more in love with Him, every area of my life is clearer and better. Including sex and marriage.
Curious about what we're going to cover next? Stay tuned!
enjoy this season of your life. Daydream and plan for the future, but don't make it your focus. You will get there one day, but now is the only season of your life that you will be single. Enjoy it. Make memories. Live in the present.
Don’t rush into a physical relationship and take strides to keep your mind pure. It’s human nature to be curious about sexuality – but keeping your mind and body pure is what God wants for us, and it will make your future marriage so much better. It’s hard in today’s society, so make sure that you form boundaries and have people around you who know and respect those boundaries and can hold you accountable.
By the way, real sex is not like the cutaway sex scenes in the movies. It’s not always hot and passionate. It’s not nice and clean. It’s not always bendy and creative. But it’s much deeper, more intimate and more connecting than TV could ever convey.
For those getting married soon,
get good marriage counseling. You may have a great relationship but marriage counseling can help you talk through things which will make things easier later. Talk about money, roles for each of you, in-laws, holidays, sex, etc. Having this can help avoid future conflict, because you know what to expect. And talk with couples in different stages of marriage who have been through different things to hear their experiences and encouragement.
For you wives out there,
have faith that you aren't the only one wondering about something, dealing with that thing or feeling that way. Curious about why your husband likes that or doesn't? Curious about why it just isn't working out for you? No woman is the perfect wife. We all have different strengths and different weaknesses - that's why God wants us to live in community with one another. I hope this series will help you feel encouraged and refreshed as a woman and as a wife.
The most important thing going into this series, if you are a follower of Jesus, is that being closer to Jesus prepares you for your (future) spouse and brings you closer to your spouse. I know it doesn't necessarily seem like it would be true, but it is. When I am reading the words of Jesus and falling more in love with Him, every area of my life is clearer and better. Including sex and marriage.
Curious about what we're going to cover next? Stay tuned!
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